Conflicts will always happen, but the way we deal with
them can make all the difference. We can choose to transform
a potentially explosive situation into a time of growth.
The basis of peaceful conflict resolution is realizing
we are part of a community, and if we try, we can find
a way that BOTH SIDES CAN WIN.
The first step to solving a problem peacefully is to
AGREE to try to solve the problem. Both sides must agree
to treat each other with respect. Each must have an
opportunity to express their point of view about what
the problem is. Both must listen and try to understand
the other's point of view.
Then, both sides try to come up with as many possible
solutions as they can, in which both benefit. Examine
each possibility; then try combining some to see if
any of the solutions would be practical and fair for
both sides. Finally, come up with a specific plan that
you agree to try to implement together.
It may take time and a lot of practice, but each effort
to strive for peaceful relationships is a victory. As
long as we don't accept defeat, and we resolve ourselves
to keep trying to heal relationships that aren't flowing
smoothly, we are winning the battle for a better world.
