* We found out that the young people who had a substantial number of lessons in the Resolving Conflict Creatively Curriculum ... not only did better in terms of people skills, that they managed their emotions, they were less violent and more caring, but they actually did better on their academic achievement tests. ~ Linda Lantieri

Emotional intelligence in the work that we do, in the Resolving Conflict Creatively Program, is about equipping young people with the kinds of skills they need to both identify and manage their emotions, to communicate those emotions effectively, and to resolve conflict nonviolently. So it's a whole set of skills and competencies that, for us, fall under the umbrella of emotional intelligence.
~ Linda Lantieri

We're finally learning that it is not an either-or situation ... Feelings and learning and emotion are all very integral to each other."
~ Linda Lantieri

 

* "...We can work it out. Life is very short, and there's no time for fussing and fighting, my friend." -- John Lennon & Paul McCartney

* "Discourage litigation. Persuade your neighbors to compromise whenever you can. Point out to them how the nominal winner is often a real loser -- in fees, expenses, and waste of time." -- Abraham Lincoln

Conflict is inevitable, but combat is optional.
-- Max Lucado

Only free men can negotiate; prisoners cannot enter into contracts. Your freedom and mine cannot be separated. -- Nelson Mandela * If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head. If you talk to him in his language, that goes to his heart. -- Nelson Mandela

To obtain a just compromise, concession must not only mutual--it must be equal also....There can be no hope that either will yield more than it gets in return.
-- Supreme Court Justice John Marshall

 

* "...We can work it out. Life is very short, and there's no time for fussing and fighting, my friend." -- Paul McCartney & John Lennon

* “Dialogue is the only way to end war and terror. We need practical solidarity with those who are weaker and diplomacy from below.” -- Luisa Morgantini

Though we all have the fear and the seeds of anger within us, we must learn not to water those seeds and instead nourish our positive qualities – those of compassion, understanding, and loving kindness. -- Thich Nhat Hanh The practice of peace and reconciliation is one of the most vital and artistic of human actions.” -- Thich Nhat Hanh * To reconcile conflicting parties, we must have the ability to understand the suffering of both sides. -- Thich Nhat Hanh

"The harder the conflict, the more glorious the triumph. What we obtain too cheap, we esteem too lightly; it is dearness only that gives everything its value. I love the man that can smile in trouble, that can gather strength from distress and grow brave by reflection. 'Tis the business of little minds to shrink; but he whose heart is firm, and whose conscience approves his conduct, will pursue his principles unto death." -- Thomas Paine.

I go back to what Mrs. Roosevelt taught me: 'Always compromise, but compromise upwards.' -- Esther Peterson

"You're in a much better position to talk with people when they approach you than when you approach them." -- Peace Pilgrim * "This is the way of peace: Overcome evil with good, falsehood with truth, and hatred with love." -- Peace Pilgrim

* "This is the way of peace: Overcome evil with good, falsehood with truth, and hatred with love." -- Peace Pilgrim

* “When will our consciences grow so tender that we will act to prevent human misery rather than avenge it?” -- Eleanor Roosevelt * We have to face the fact that either all of us are going to die together or we are going to learn to live together and if we are to live together we have to talk. -- Eleanor Roosevelt

* "If civilization is to survive, we must cultivate the science of human relationships - the ability of all peoples, of all kinds, to live together, in the same world at peace." -- Franklin D. Roosevelt

"I found one day in school a boy of medium size ill-treating a smaller boy. I expostulated, but he replied: 'The bigs hit me, so I hit the babies; that's fair.' In these words he epitomized the history of the human race." -- Bertrand Russell * For love of domination we must substitute equality; for love of victory we must substitute justice; for brutality we must substitute intelligence; for competition we must substitute cooperation. We must learn to think of the human race as one family. -- Bertrand Russell “The only thing that will redeem mankind is cooperation.” -- Bertrand Russell

"To observe people in conflict is a necessary part of a child's education. It helps him to understand and accept his own occasional hostilities and to realize that differing opinions need not imply an absence of love."
-- Milton R. Saperstein

I will not play at tug o'war.
I'd rather play at hug o'war,
Where everyone hugs
Instead of tugs,
Where everyone giggles
And rolls on the rug,
Where everyone kisses,
And everyone grins,
And everyone cuddles,
And everyone wins.
-- Shel Silverstein

 

* One of the basic causes for all the trouble in the world today is that people talk too much and think too little. They act impulsively without thinking. I always try to think before I talk. -- Margaret Chase Smith

 

Peace is not the absence of conflict but the presence of creative alternatives for responding to conflict -- alternatives to passive or aggressive responses, alternatives to violence.
-- Dorothy Thompson

 

* If you have nothing to say, say nothing. -- Mark Twain

 

The story of the human race is characterized by efforts to get along much more than by violent disputes, although it's the latter that makes the history books. Violence is actually exceptional. The human race has survived because of cooperation, not aggression.
-- Gerard Vanderhaar

You can stand tall without standing on someone. You can be a victor without having victims.
-- Harriet Woods

“Cooperation means win-win, confrontation means lose-lose.”
-- Zhu Feng

 

WIN-WIN
We Can Work It Out

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Conflict Resolution Day - 3rd Thursday in October